Getting Back Together or Moving on?
Getting back together with your ex can be easy or hard depending on your situation. When you have tried getting back together in vain, it may be time to move on. Sometimes moving on after a break up is not easy unless of course you wanted the relationship to end. However, if you still love your ex and still wanted to get back together, breakup is not fun. A break up interrupts your whole life. Everything you do and see seems to remind you of your ex. If you had several common friends, even going out can be difficult due to the fact that you will be asked the obvious question by your friend, “Are you still getting back together?”
Getting Back Together or moving on: dealing with Family and friends
One of the main obstacles you have to face when you are ready to move on is your family and friends. If your ex was popular with your family, you are going to get tired of questions about the situation. You must explain to them that you are moving on, break up is over, and that you don’t appreciate constantly being reminded of your ex and the past relationship. Remember some of your friends and family members may still be thinking of the two of you getting back together some day.
Your breakup may especially be difficult for family to deal with. They want to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you’ll get back together. You can simply explain to them patiently that you are not getting back together with your ex, but instead you are moving on. They may not understand at the time, but don’t worry. Eventually they’ll come around since they are your family and they love you. It is not as hard explaining to friends that you are not getting back together with your ex as it may be with family.
Getting Back Together Vs moving on: Dealing with mutual friends
You will have an easy time dealing with friends if you didn’t have many mutual friends. But if the two of you often spent some time with the same group of people, then you going alone to be with those friends will seem questionable. It becomes a problem if your ex wants to hang out with the friends too. You might even run into each other as you each attempt to hang out with your mutual friends. This doesn’t mean that it’s necessary when you’re moving on break up with your friends. It’s just simply going to be more difficult to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over. Some of your friends will constantly ask you if you are still planning on getting back together with your ex.
As difficult as it seems, when you say you are not getting back together with your ex you may have to give up some of those friendships. You and your ex may each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of shared friends. Just try to maintain good contact and relationships with those you’re closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others. It is for your good that you are not getting back together with him or her and your true friends will understand.
Take a break or vacation when Getting Back Together with ex is not possible
It is a good idea to go on vacation after breakup especially when you are not thinking of getting back together with your ex. You can go with a friend who understands your situation. This can help you get some perspective. Just make sure you have made up your mind that you are not getting back together with your ex. Otherwise, going away when you still love your ex is not a solution, especially if you think getting back together is still possible. But there is always help if you are still considering getting back together.
